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Please Evaluate This Relationship….?

Posted on 27. Jan, 2012 by admin in Uncategorized

I am 29 he is 33. My ex and i met 3 years ago right after he divorced his wife of 5 years (has a 5 yr old son w. her).. we dated for 2yrs, he would always mentioned how blessed he was to find me, that I have made him a better person, appreciated all my support, wanted a future with me etc. Until one day he became distant for no reason…. he confessed and told me his ex wife had a conversation with him one night asking him for another chance for she has seen a BIG change in him etc. He said he was confused and did not know what to do…Anyway, No matter how much it hurt, i told him to go back to her and work things out… 2 weeks after, he wrote me a letter and asked me to take him back because he knew it wouldn’t work out with her…In that same envelope he put a large amount of Cash proving me that he was not playing around and that he was saving that money for our future… I sort of pushed him to try.it with her..i wanted him to get it out of his system. So 4mts gone by with NO CONTACT and Christmas came along.. i texted him a simple, “Merry Christmas” His X wife read it and accused him of cheating because he replied back mentioning my “pet name”… two weeks after this text she kicked him out of the house…. That is when he contacted me all over again (1 mth later.) We met and we spoke…. He was hurting a lot because she found out she was seeing someone right after she kicked him out and right away she began dating a guy..a few mts gone by and we began dating all over again (i know i was on the rebound but wanted to regain what we once had) We dated until the last month of September (6 mts) He was acting distance like the time we split the first time…and i was getting the hint the X was back in the picture.. he had found out she ended her relationship with the other guy and confessed she wanted to get back with him that she loved him and to give her another chance… I knew deeply inside she found out there was nothing between her X husband and I..Anyway, one day i went to my “boyfriends” house and broke it off because in my heart i knew history was repeating.. he PROMISED he was not with her or anyone else and wanted to continue our relationship and to give him a chance. Again he told me he knew he will never have a future with her because they could just not get along. We talked for hours and talked of our insecurities and how we can make our relationship work even more….2 weeks later i met over his apt. and to my surprise his x wife knocks on the door…She confronts both of us and tells me if i knew they were trying to work things out?… she told me they have been intimate a few times… He never denied anything…. He was basically playing us both because she kept yelling and crying at him that he has been using her… (confession :i never gave up my virginity to this man which led me think he gave in to her) She told me the reason they divorced: 5 years of domestic violence. i did not know this and i have never seen this in him at all.He did tell her that he wanted to be with me, that is the only satisfaction i take from this relationship…After his X left the apt, he told me she had beat him to it, that he was going to end things with her but got stuck in this whole mess. Also, he said he was talking to her more lately because he was still looking for answers about his past relationship with her (unfinished business)….. He said she wanted to take him back but she was already lying to him about things he knew the truth about… anyway, i broke it off, and he was begging for the next few days…He says he chose me and to please forgive and understand him (he was crying) and not to be hard on him.. The last time we spoke over the phone i told him i want him out of my life that there are consequences to every action.He said he will give me my space and will not bug me…..
I KNOW I WILL NOT TAKE HIM BACK, I’VE LEARNED MY LESSON WELL…..My question is:::: DO THEY HAVE A CHANCE TO WORK THINGS OUT? I know this is not my business anymore nor should i care… ANY SIMILAR STORIES OUT THERE? i honestly think they will be unhappy, and she will end up kicking him out of the house for the third time if he decides to move in with her again. What do you think?
He would always mention how i am a HUGE shadow to her, that i make her insecure and she often wants to know about me.

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